Let’s not go into planning a wedding just yet, but let’s at least by hypothetical. When your significant other presents you with your engagement ring, it should represent you and your relationship perfectly, something you couldn’t have done a better job had you picked it out yourself. In an ideal world that is exactly the scenario that would take place, but how to do you know that you will get the ring that you want? To ensure that when you open up that little square box you will find a ring you are truly excited about, take the time to lay a little bit of groundwork – chances are he’ll appreciate the help.
Your personal style should be reflected in the ring end up with, so if you’re a sleek, chic businesswoman perhaps a simple solitaire is for you, or if you are spontaneous and fun, then maybe a colored stone is your thing. Keep in mind your lifestyle as well as your personal style while you ponder over your options. If you are very active or work with your hands, make sure you subtly hint for a ring that won’t get in the way of your daily activity.
Since your ring should be a reflection of who you are, you need to make it clear who you are not. Try to be a bit more coy than leaving out a wedding magazine with pictures of engagement rings circled and crossed out. Instead, drop hints about rings you’ve seen and what your friends are wearing. Though this can be a tricky situation, so consider aiming for more straightforward ways of going about getting the ring you want.
Some couples couple talk openly about an engagement even before an official proposal; thus making the ring conversation a natural progression. If you are this kind of couple, then picking out rings together alleviates any potential disaster and ensures a happy outcome. If you still want some element of surprise you can always walk up to jewelry windows wherever you are and point to ones you like or sketch out ideas for him in order to point him in the right direction.
Many women, in an attempt to foolproof their perfect plan, enlist the help of a trustworthy friend or family member. Tell them exactly what you want and let them tastefully reiterate your likings or shop with your almost-betrothed. He may ask for the help from your friend without you even knowing, so be prepared and share your dream ring with a few close loved ones to keep all your bases covered.
If all of this fails, and you still end up with a ring you are less than crazy about, don’t be afraid to talk about it. Though it might be a sensitive situation, he will want you to have a ring that you love instead of something you are unhappy with. After all, you don’t want to start your marriage off on the wrong foot (or ring!).
Familiarize yourself with the variety of shapes, sizes, cuts and colors out there. Explore the process together if he’s willing. Perhaps suggest in conversation that should you be wed, you love the idea of designing a ring together, something special that really is an expression of each of you (while your hidden agenda is carefully secured).
If you find yourself happily engaged but unhappily decorated, approach the idea of an exchange. Smart shoppers are always clear on exchange or refund policies. If return or exchange is not an option, for example you find yourself being presented with a family ring that just doesn’t suit your taste, consider reworking the jewels into a varied setting. Oftentimes couples collaborate on a custom design, so it can be equal parts of both of them and have a unified outcome. Keep in mind that custom work can take a few months to complete. But something so unique is well worth the wait.
However you decide to symbolize your love and devotion to one another, make it special. Whether that means having the perfect stone or including a simple engraving in a ring he selected for you – make it you and make it personal.